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Question: I am a Christian mother. My husband and I have raised three wonderful children in a Southern Baptist church. My children know that it is a sin to have sex before marriage. One of my children (19 years old) and his girlfriend told us they were expecting a child. They told us that before they had sex they said their wedding vows before God. They did put God first. They knew they would get married someday by man's law, but didn't feel they could wait. Tell me how you feel on this subject. Were they wrong? They are married now and very happy with a beautiful little girl, and staying in church. They both still know in God's eyes they were married .Answer:
Concerning your question about your son, I think like a lot of us, you already know the answer to your question.
Please let me assure you that I am happy things turned out well. Yes, they were wrong to do what they did, namely have sex before marriage. However, I thank God for His grace, and the opportunity to go ahead and build a great marriage. Many couples who do what they have done end up with much heartache and a broken marriage.
As a parent, if it were my children I would not bring this sin up to them to bring condemnation, but would encourage them to do what they are doing, staying in church and living for the Lord.
Of course we could give many scriptures concerning illicit sex, but why preach at them now? Let them know you are proud of them taking the proper step and getting married.
I would like to suggest a good book on marriage. The title is TILL DEATH DO US PART. It is by Joseph Webb, Webb Ministries, Inc., P.O. Box 520729, Longwood, FL. 32752-0729 The cost is $12.95 plus $2.50 postage.
